Introducing our new member Amba Kali
The family is the only social group where there is so many changing differentnesses that have to be accommodated in so little space and so little time (Virginia Satir)
Change within the family structure is a normal and healthy pattern, yet it’s often at the transitions of these new phases that can cause crisis, as resistance and lack of acceptance prevents growth. Have you ever considered that as Women, we encounter 11 stages of life which requires resourceful adaptation, to prevent it becoming a potential crisis?
- Conception, pregnancy and birth of a child
- Identity of our child, when they start speaking
- Starting school, our child makes an official connection outside the home
- Further education, our child leaving home
- Adulthood and independence of our child
- When our child choses a partner
- The advent of Menopause
- The male “mid life” crisis of our partner
When some of these crisises are going on at once, it can create extra stress and anxiety within the family structure. A particular example of this is when as a Mother we lose our own Mother.
A recent conversation with Amba-Kali reminded me that the Eastern tradition prepares and guides Women through these crises’ with support, ancient wisdom and space to transition.
Elisabeth Kübler-Ross says that “Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and Acceptance are responses to loss that many people have, but there is not a typical response to loss as there is no typical loss. Our grief is as individual as our lives. The five stages, denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance are a part of the framework that makes up our learning to live with the one we lost. They are tools to help us frame and identify what we may be feeling. But they are not stops on some linear timeline in grief. Not everyone goes through all of them or in a prescribed order. Our hope is that with these stages comes the knowledge of grief ’s terrain, making us better equipped to cope with life and loss.”
Gaining knowledge of the Grief cycle and understanding the seesaw of emotions that we sail through is very much a “cognitive” or head brain process, but it doesn’t encompass fully a trauma informed approach, where we know that grief is a “felt” sense in the body. This is where the Eastern tradition can facilitate healing on a profound level.
Here is an example of how Amba-Kali supported one of her client’s through the loss of her Mother.
“My mother had died on Christmas Eve.
Two months later, after the funeral I had been unable to grieve fully. The absence of the tears which I expected to shed was in part attributable to a mix of medication from my GP.
The veneer of calmness had meant that I could give a reading in church for her funeral.
However, despite the advantage s from the protection offered by the medication, I felt unsettled in the knowledge that I was carrying an enormous burden of unresolved emotion.
I was fortunate that I had met Amba previously. She arranged for me to have a tailored Tantra Therapy in her peaceful warm clinic room.
During the treatment, I was able to connect with those emotions which had remained buried . With Amba’s guidance I felt relieved to know that I could cry finally.
Her words and use of scents for unlocking my thoughts helped me to accept the reality of my mother’s death. Significantly, in Amba’s Eastern setting . She was extremely respectful of my own Christian set of beliefs surrounding death.
Consequently, I was able to sleep better the following night, I had found an equilibrium and peace of mind thanks to her compassionate treatment and intuitive ability to unlock whatever had been fuelling my discomfort beforehand.
Thank you Amba Kali for helping me to come to terms with her death In your unique , empathetic treatment.
I highly recommend that anyone who is in need of support following bereavement will feel better after spending time with Amba Kali”
Amba Kali, is a 5th generation Tantric, an intuitive, intimacy spiritual healer.
I help people to awaken and harness their sacred chakras for their personal and professional development.
Transformational relationship Healer & Coach
Certified Healer, Coach, psychic,Mentor
Astro psychologist, soul contract reader.
kundalini somatic bodyworker, Generational trauma healer.
Ayurveda practitioner and meditation teacher.
Gong sound healer.
Written by Sarah Weller Family Relationship and Parenting Coach
Sarah supports Parents navigate the challenges of family life, from birth to adulthood in her bespoke style of coaching, helping families become fully functional. This includes supporting couples to strengthen their relationship, to gain more harmony and less stress in family life.